/gquit

/gquit is not my friend

Well it’s never easy to type those 5 letters. Actually it’s been only the second time for me. And the first time was totally different. My old guild master decided it was time for a break for her. She called all raids off and encouraged people to stay in the guild, but there wouldn’t be any raiding. Of course around 70% of the guild quit instantly or in the following days.

Last Saturday was a different story. Me and my better half left Faculty. There was no drama, no bad blood and I guess for many our decision came very unexpected. There was no particular event that forced our hand, rather an overall feeling and many little things that we couldn’t agree with. Many people we liked very much have left the guild, some had similar reasons as we had, some completely different. Many many new faces joined the guild and a good portion of them wasn’t my cup of tea. The healer channel, once dedicated to organizing healers and constructive criticism had become a way to discuss the healmeter or accuse other healers if something went wrong. But those were problems you’d normally discuss with an officer, the main reason for our departure was the lack of people we truly enjoyed hanging around with. Don’t get my wrong, there were fantastic guys and girls in this guild, but all of them were already connected to a little group that did everything together.

Our main motivation to be part of a guild of course is raiding. And we are perfectly clear about how guild and the INTERWEBZ works. We don’t expect everyone to be our best friend. We don’t expect guilds to be drama free. And as a couple we take many annoyances of raiding and the whole wow universe light-hearted. While other people go crazy over some stuff like raids not working or guild drama, we’re still sitting next to each other and can somehow have fun or talk about our day. But some weeks ago we got a sense that things were just not working out as we planned. A crucial point was always Wednesday night, which was raid free but the first day of the raiding ID. So that’s the day everyone wants to go Naxx10. We were always online, asked around who’d group with us and everyone was polite but turned us down, or even worse, promised us to take us on their group, but then took someone else without even telling us.

Do I sound like a whiny girl? Sorry if I do so, but maybe today I am. The first guild I was in felt so much like a little family, while not successful at raiding. The guild I quit on Saturday was much more successful, but it started to feel more and more like work, with some nice people, but also with annoying guys. And especially if you’re like me, who rarely says no to filling a missing healer spot or jumping in for someone with a headache, it isn’t easy to realize that you’re still far away from finding your place in a guild, not only a raid spot.

And as today, after like the 14th Azjol Heroic run with my prot warrior alt, the tanking belt finally dropped, got ninjaed by a ret paladin, who said he was sorry, he had only clicked on the wrong button, to then declare he has an urgent phone call and quickly log off, I feel like I seriously have to smash something.

But after all we are human and one of our strengths is to look forward and get things going again. Guildless time will leave me with more time for this blog and maybe a good book. I now have time to plan my next steps, time to look for a guild, time to plan my raiding future. And for me, guildless time is always time to rethink playing wow at all.

If you’re guild is recruiting, drop me a line. I wouldn’t say no to a transfer to another realm. Just keep it EU.

And please do tell me about you’re experiences with leaving a guild and the following days and weeks. What were you’re reasons to leave a guild, if you ever did so? How did you motivate yourself to throw yourself on the market again, write applications and talk to guild officers? And if you’re on Teldrassil-EU, please join me on a Azjol Heroic run if you promise me to leave me my tanking belt.